The Dash-Board Institute
Between the DOB and the DOD lies a dash.
Some thoughts on how to define that
most important space.
Just Saying...
Searching for it...
...since we were established we have searched for validation from other humans. This is as 'they' say "hard-wired". As Gabor Matte states accurately "children will search for validation from their parents, even at their own demise.' So describes our present 'human condition'.
Here is the fact. Distilling down the most positively effective interaction towards another human one can practice, we arrive at the act of validating another's emotions.
When we listen to another human and our tendancy is to rush with a return of our belief, experience, commentary. Do this, and before that, do this. Validate the other human verbally. This will help that human with not thinking they are wrong. No human is ever wrong with their thoughts. That's another fact. Help them feel their thought, their emotion is NOT wrong. And then offer yours...
Here is the fact. Distilling down the most positively effective interaction towards another human one can practice, we arrive at the act of validating another's emotions.
When we listen to another human and our tendancy is to rush with a return of our belief, experience, commentary. Do this, and before that, do this. Validate the other human verbally. This will help that human with not thinking they are wrong. No human is ever wrong with their thoughts. That's another fact. Help them feel their thought, their emotion is NOT wrong. And then offer yours...
Learning To Fish.....
Gabor Matte
This dude lived it, he works with it, and he knows it. Trauma. All that it is, and all that it affects. Read his books.
https://drgabormate.com
Center for Humane Tech
It is about balance. Or we will be lost in the most disruptive force in the history of our known civilization. This crew is smart, realisic, and have the vision to save us from us.
https://www.humanetech.com
It's what they don't tell you
Two books that must be read to get closer to finding out. The China Study and Whole by TCC. Get them, read them and change some things.
https://nutritionstudies.org/the-china-study/
Stay with this
This is an entire topic that can go either way, and is probably somewhere in the middle. Just check this documentary and stay with it before closing it down. Bring out what resonates with you. Minimally it shows the power within us. You can find it for free at various services.
https://www.imdb.com/title/tt12108272/
make some connections
The documentary series explores some important and facinating subjects. Again, just stay with it and you will take some useful information away. This site has a summary of all four films and you can find them at various outlets.
https://www.sidewaysfilm.com/zeitgeist-the-series/
nassim
Some dudes are just at a different level. Nassim is one of those that operates at a certain frequency of being intellectual and grounded in real problems to be solved. His books are dense. Read them slow and steady. Not for your monthly book club list.
https://nassimtaleb.org
top of the list
There are many, many books on relationships. This one is tops. Through the lens of creating healthy intimacy and desire this books walks us through how to be better individuals by attempting the crucible of the complex long-term adult committed relationship.
https://crucible4points.com/books/intimacy-desire/
wage the war
Any creative person knows exactly what Steven Pressfield is writing about in this one. Smart, witty, funny, and raw, this is the book to start with to understand your journey.
https://stevenpressfield.com/books/the-war-of-art/
The Dash-board Institute
Informing the human who controls the space between a thought and the expression of thought.
What we learn to do in that space
defines our Dash.